Life, Love & Money....
Conversations with Dianne
(Pink Floyd - "Money")
I’ve never seen a work or money problem that didn’t turn out to be a thinking problem.
I used to believe that I needed money to be happy. Even when I had a lot, I was often sick with the fear that something terrible would happen and I would lose it. I realize now that no amount of money is worth that kind of stress.
If you live with the uninvestigated thought “I need my money to be safe and secure,” you’re living in a hopeless state of mind. Banks fail. Stock markets crash.
Currencies deflate. People lie, bend contracts, and break their promises. In this
confused state of mind, you can make millions of dollars and still be insecure
and unhappy.
Some people believe that fear and stress are what motivate them to make
money. But can you really know that that’s true? Can you be absolutely certain that without fear or stress as a motivator, you wouldn’t have made the same money, or even more? “I need fear and stress to motivate me” — who would you be if you never believed that story again?
After I found The Work inside myself — after it found me — I began to notice that I always had the perfect amount of money for me right now, even when I had little or none. Happiness is a clear mind. A clear and sane mind knows how to live, how to work, what e-mails to send, what phone calls to make, and what to do to create what it wants without fear.
Who would you be without the thought “I need my money to be safe”?
You might be a lot easier to be with. You might even begin to notice the laws of
generosity, the laws of letting money go out fearlessly and come back fearlessly.
You don’t ever need more money than you have. When you understand this, you
begin to realize that you already have all the security you wanted money to give you in the first place. It’s a lot easier to make money from this position.
Loving What Is, 2002
From The "Work" of Byron Katie
Does money equal happiness?
For those of us who don’t have money, the answer is usually YES!
For those of us that have money, the answer varies between a yes- and sometimes a 'no'. It's obvious that we all use money. Money buys food, shelter, clothing and other “stuff” we use, want and think we need.
So, how much is enough? What amount of money can make you happy, keep you safe, or guarantee you health? Does having money mean security or safety? When millionaires feel insecure, unloved, angry, ill or getting ready to die, what can their money do to “fix” that? What can a piece of paper do to help?
Especially right now, it seems that money is a major cause of suffering. Either the lack of money, or the fear of losing money from investments gone wrong, devalued housing markets, diminishing retirement accounts, and layoffs are effecting many people. Money is literally THE topic of most conversations on a daily basis.
The Truth is: Money will not make or keep anyone safe, and your money is not safe. Banks fail, people lie, stocks crash, jobs come and go, companies fail and yet the world goes on - your inner and outer world
Here are some common beliefs that cause stress:
If I had a lot of money, I would be safe and secure.
When I get more money, I will be happy.
People only want me for my money.
People shouldn't want me for my money.
If I lose anymore money I will not be able to retire.
The economy is terrible.
I should have ____.
I shouldn’t have____.
I need more money.
People with a lot of money are happy.
Because I am rich, I should be happy.
I need to keep my money safe.
I knew better than to ___. I made a mistake.
I know people who have many millions of dollars and are not happy. I also know people who are deeply in debt and in pre foreclosure that are doing okay. However, neither of these people are happy, or miserable because of the amount of money they have or don’t have.
They are happy or not because of how they think.
Money is only a concept and yet we continue build our lives around it.
It’s simply pieces of paper with numbers and ink and yet we worship it, stress over, and some are willing to kill over it...
The power of money comes from our thoughts about it. We either have peace around money - or STRESS! What kind of power does money have over YOU?
"Money Madness" is when money is the focus of your life. It becomes an addiction and a source of unhappiness.
So, how can you escape this frustration and stress? There are a few simple ways that have worked for me and hundreds of thousands of others…...
One way is to do “The Work” around your stress about money. The other way is to attend A "Money Madness - Going Sane" Workshop & Hire Me for a private coaching session.
Check out www.TheWork.com
or Hire me to do a Private Coaching Session to unravel your money concepts that destroy your peace.
*** Private Sessions can done anonymously, meaning that you will only disclose your first name- or a nickname. You will not have to share your income or any financial information with me if you don’t want to because It's actually irrelevant....
the Concepts and stressful beliefs/fears are what we unravel
'If I had more money I would be happy' Is that true?
" I don't have enough money and that means _____"
'I need more money'
"The Economy Sucks... Is it true?
'I have a lot of money and that means ____'
"People only want me for my money"
"I should be farther along in my career by now"
Lets do some "Work" around money and Money issues....
It's fun & sometimes even frightening to look at, and
challenge our current beliefs that cause so much
suffering and stress!
I understand. I listen. I get it - because I've been there too!
Dianne Sikel
Provocative Life & Love Coach
Sessions Are Completely Discreet & Confidential!
602.908.4178