Beyond the filtered lives people lead via their social media pages, often our idea of what it means to have one’s “life in order” are misguided by all the fake stuff and constant focus on the good parts of our peers’ lives. Ask pretty much any earning adult who is perhaps within the age group of 25-35 and they’ll probably tell the same story of how they believe their particular lives are nowhere near being “in order.”
So if nobody’s life is in order, what exactly does it mean then to have your life in order?
Whether we care to admit it or not, finances play the biggest roles in anybody’s life who is alive right now. So I would say that sorting out your finances constitutes the biggest part of what it means to have your life in order. To simplify things, I would say that it’s basically just a matter of spending less than you earn while you constantly increase the value of what forms part of your everyday life with each next pay-cheque you get.
Goals and dreams
Many of us spoke so fondly of some goals and dreams we had when we were young and carefree. While we may still be young, life has shown us that it’s really hard to realise some of the biggest dreams we have and I guess that forms a big part of what it means to have your life in order. Are you living the life you thought you would be living?
I’ve met countless thirty-year-olds who say they feel like they should go and “call an adult” when there’s some major issue to sort out, when they are indeed adults themselves. Taking responsibility forms part of what it means to have your life in order.
The ability to adapt to change
Basically this means having your stuff together by having plans in place in anticipation for the worst that could happen in the major areas of your life. Unfortunately it all comes back down to money again, doesn’t it? At least we know what needs to be done then, so we can put the necessary measures in place to deal with changes as they come.
So the ability to adapt to change as a measure of “having one’s life together” in practice entails things like just knowing where to go if and when major events which could otherwise impact you negatively take place. For example, I would know that I should go to the offices of my insurer should my car get stolen (or simply call them up while making arrangements to go to the police station and open a case). I would also know to get in touch with Cohen, Placitella, & Roth PC in the event that someone close to me, like a dependent or family member, suffered an accident at work or elsewhere which lead to a brain injury and the associated implications thereof.
Basically you just have to know what to do in order to react positively to anything which befalls you, even if sometimes you’re headed down a path that really scares you.